Expressing Anger
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Properly expressing anger is an energy and time saver for people. If you can express your anger better than other people, you will have more people that are ready to work with and help you. You will also see that the better you are at calmly expressing your anger the fewer the times will be that you actually get angry.
Fundamental parts of yourself will need to be uprooted if you are going to express your anger properly. The reason is because as children we observe our caretakers and from them learn how we are going to be expressing our anger.
This is why you should make it a must that children not be around people who do not know how to show their anger in safe ways.
We Show Anger In Three Ways
There are three main ways that people express anger. There are outward expressions which include violence as well as yelling, making threats, and being sarcastic, which is a milder form of outward expression.
When a person seethes or boils with anger on the inside but does not show it outwardly, this person is making an inward expression of his anger. This is a very unhealthy practice. It leads to health problems, one of the biggest being blood circulation problems. This form of anger is often the type that also turns to rage.
You can do better at showing your anger than any one of these forms of anger.
Apart from these two you can better express your anger by asserting yourself when you are not angry. All you do is when you are calm, speak to the person who offends you and tell them how what they do gets on your nerves. But remember when you do this, to do it in a way that gains agreement. You are not looking for an argument.
The objective is to not think about your anger and the cause of it.
This is what you can do
One of the better things you can do beside learning to recognize when you are becoming angry is to learn to relax. You may think you already know how to do this but learn to do it better.
Once you can relax, you will see that you do not need to show your anger in harmful ways. If you were to take a good look at your feelings, you will see that with anger come stress, tension and anxiousness. When you can relax you will get rid of this tension and you will be better at expressing anger.
Broyde McDonald gives information that helps you arrive at your anger management goals. Find out more about expressing anger and how to control anger with his popular free anger management ebook.
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