Explanations Why Rebound Relationships Usually Don’t Work Out
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“I want a divorce!” These can be four of the most life changing, earth shattering words. Or perhaps you can’t help feeling a sense of relief, although it may be slightly guilty relief. Whether you are relieved or devastated, you are sure to feel some sort of emotional loss, and feelings of being out of control. It is very normal for you to turn to someone else to fill those emotional voids. Such relationships are called rebound relationships.
These rebound relationships usually get their start when a significance love has been destroyed. People that are enduring the trauma of divorce generally feel they need a cushion of sorts. They can’t handle the feelings of loneliness and lovelessness, so they turn to someone else for support.
It is always prudent to take things slow in a rebound relationship. There is likely to be lots of raw emotions on the part of the divorcee, and that can cause real issues. In the beginning phases of the relationship, it may seem like you have found the perfect match that can heal all you pain. Remember that this new person is only human, and can (and probably will, though unintentionally) let you down.
I’m sorry to tell you this, but rebound relationships very rarely last. The main problem is that the person that has just come through the divorce is still dealing with tons of emotions that makes commitment difficult. The healing process just hasn’t happened yet.
Another thing that you should know is that once the divorcee has recovered and is once again thinking clearly, they may be shocked at some of the decisions that they made. It is often that they realize they needed a replacement love, and didn’t truly love the new partner. They make the decision to end this second marriage, leaving the other partner feeling the same pain that they originally felt.
Perhaps it would be better instead to find a new hobby or maybe study something new to help you overcome the grief and pain caused by your previous relationship. If you decide to go ahead with a new relationship, learn from your past mistakes, choose a partner you can live with, and make sure that you have healed and moved on from the past.
Be careful in dating divorced men. They generally will end up leaving you once their needs are met. Also, don’t allow a rebounder to push you on the relationship. You need to know whether the person is with you mentally of still with the other person.
On the bright side, rebound relationships can work. If both partners are willing and ready to take risks and give lots of trust and communication, the relationship will grow. This can lead to a good strong relationship.
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