Breakup Advice: When Can I Date Again?
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There is a common belief that you can’t go forward until there is closure of the old relationship. So is closure a must? I feel the answer is unique to each individual. Some people never really reach what is viewed as closure, and still are able to go on to be successful at relationships.
What is closure anyway? Is it that ah-ha moment when you can let go of the past and have forgiveness? And is it absolutely necessary to be able to date again? Lets see:
The Difference Between Dating & Relationships
There is no emotional commitment when it comes to dating. There are feelings about the actual date but there is no commitment. Dating is basically a practice run.
When comparing dating to a relationship it’s like comparing a ride in a canoe to one on a cruise ship. There is a whole lot more to a relationship especially when you have 100% of your love, your dreams and your future plans involved.
We have so much invested in a relationship, and the closure process comes in the form of getting back the control of our love, our dreams and or future visions. Until we have command of these emotions we will find it very difficult to start the process of a successful future with someone new.
This Is The Frustrating Part
OK, you meet someone else, and they look just the way you like, and they have the sense of humor you like, heck they even have great manners and smell good. What sucks is if you are not in control of your feelings from your last relationship this new one has no chance.
You need to put off any relationship until you are 100 percent alright with your ex not being in your life. Until you feel you are OK with your ex being out of your life stay away from anything that comes close to a relationship.
Does that mean you are unable to date? No, dating has actually been shown to help people take command of their emotions again.
Getting Back Your Emotions
Here’s the deal: when it comes to dating, closure after a breakup isn’t a necessity BUT closure is if you want to build a successful relationship. So if lasting relationship after a breakup is what you want, then it is well worth your time to practice some emotional wellness. Otherwise it is not fair to you or the other person, know matter what they smell like.
It might be one of the scariest things you have ever had to do, but taking control of your emotions is well worth it. You need to take a step back and look at the big picture, your happiness in the future, no matter how hard it is to get there.
There are times when it’s not the right answer to seek closure and move on. If you’re still in love with your ex you don’t have to move on until you’re ready to. You can get your ex back I can show you how. The Make Up Plan
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The key is to admit a mistake if you’ve made one and then go about treating the relationship as if you are starting over again and doing the things that made you fall in love with each other initially.
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